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Thomas called me from Kansas City. He had built a successful plaintiff’s firm over the past twelve years. He had a hundred active files. His clients texted him from 6 a.m. to 8 p.m., expecting immediate responses, and he provided them. He told me his stress level was over a hundred on a ten-point scale. His exact words were that he did not feel like a professional. He felt like a punching bag.

By every external measure, Thomas was succeeding. By his own measure, he was getting destroyed.

Twenty-five years into my career, I was a hamster on a wheel.

The insurance carriers were sending me more cases than I could responsibly manage — more than I could handle with the focus and clarity my clients deserved. I was working tirelessly, spinning hard, producing results. But I was not performing. There is a real difference between those two things, and it took me longer than I’d like to admit to understand what that difference was costing me.

For most of the years I ran my firm, I walked in each morning and reacted to whatever hit me first. The call that came in overnight, the partner waiting at my door, the email marked urgent that was urgent to someone else. I told myself this was the job. Then I would look up at seven in the evening, having worked ten hours, and could not name a single thing I had actually moved forward.

I see it now in the attorneys I work with. Take Thomas. He left the office at seven on Tuesday after a full ten hours, and he could not have told you what he accomplished. You know that day, because you have had it.

You walked out of that succession planning meeting and felt something you didn't expect: relief. Not because a good plan was in place. Because you'd made it through the entire conversation without actually committing to anything.

I remember the first time a high-value client looked across the conference table and said, “Gary, I only trust you. I don’t want anyone else touching my case.” Early in my career, those words hit like a standing ovation. They felt like proof that decades of preparation, sacrifice, and sleepless nights had been worth it. That kind of client dependency felt like the ultimate professional compliment—the validation I’d been chasing since my first jury trial.

But one chapter hit me harder than all the others — Chapter 9: “Buried Lies.” It’s the emotional climax of the entire book — the moment where everything the golfer has been learning converges into a single, gut-level confrontation with himself. Johnny Crawford hands the golfer paper and a pen and tells him to write down the lies that have been running his life — then bury them in the ground. And it’s the chapter that speaks most directly to what I see in the successful lawyers I coach.